Dating Question

I met this guy online from South Africa

Dear Rose, During COVID lockdown I met this guy online from South Africa — he’s wonderful, and we’re in love. He recently asked for some money so he can come to Australia. We chat every night, and he seems genuine. Do you think I should be worried? Jay
Rose Pappalardo  |  Dear Rose

Dear Jay, COVID has been difficult, and if you were single during lockdown it might have also been lonely. COVID romances were common, and I, too, had a COVID fling. My romance was quick but intense because the only people we saw were each other. It’s only since coming out of lockdown that I now have a better picture of this person. They aren’t bad, just different.

In your case, the fact that this person has asked for money to come to Australia would be a red flag. I would not send money.

However, if you feel that this person is genuine and want to see if the relationship works, you can always purchase a refundable ticket on their behalf. If it turns out that the situation is not genuine, at least you have an option to recoup your finances.


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