Relationship Question

Dating an older guy

Dear Rose, I’m 23, and I’m in a relationship with a guy in his 50s. I want to introduce him to my parents, but I’m pretty sure they will totally flip out. What should I do? Nick
 |  Rose Pappalardo  |  Dear Rose

Dear Nick, Although it’s totally fine to date an older person, you are right, your parents will probably flip out. Before you judge them, ask yourself: what would you think if your child was seeing someone who is about 30 years older? Reversing the scenario to their point of view will help you empathise and also formulate your dialogue  in answering any questions they may have.

The other issue that comes to mind is whether you have discussed this with your BF? Introducing your man to your parents has consequences for him as well. You will need to present as a united front to protect each other and the relationship that you have developed together.

Ultimately it’s your life. While we all strive for our parent’s approval, the fact is the best we can hope for is their love and respect, regardless  of their opinions.

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